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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
National Competition on Worries!
(National Competition on Worries)
I saw so many people outside of the studio,
so I wondered why there were so many people there.
I wondered who could be our guests today.
- Lee Sang Min is here. - That's right.
He was the reason.
- Lee Sang Min! - Hello, everyone.
(Lee Sang Min, the most popular entertainer)
And the members of Korea's most beloved idol group.
Ong Seong Woo, Hwang Min Hyun, and Kim Jae Hwan of Wanna One!
(Ong Seong Woo, Hwang Min Hyun, and Kim Jae Hwan of Wanna One)
(Screaming)
By the way, Dong Yeob,
let me ask you something that I was wondering about.
Why did you do your hair like that?
- I mean, you look stupid. - I... No, I don't.
- Doesn't he look like Shin Chan? - Exactly.
I don't want to look fabulous.
I just want to look young.
But you look pitiful instead.
It seems that things have been going well for Sang Min...
since he appeared on Hello. Don't you think so?
- It seems so, indeed. - When I first...
- Things were hopeless back then. - That's true.
According to Seo Jang Hoon,
- he's too busy to get enough sleep. - I see him on so many TV shows...
- whenever I watch TV. - I heard he's very busy.
- He's working really hard. - Do you sometimes...
work all night to record a show?
I've recorded TV shows for 36 hours in a row.
- You didn't get to take a nap? - No.
- It's true. - You have worries now, don't you?
- No, I really don't have any... - You don't have any worries yet?
I have no worries.
If you have to say something that bothers you, what would it be?
Something that could worry you.
Think of something.
My house is cold.
- That's a worry. - It's a serious problem.
You can turn on the heater.
Since I'm living in a rented place...
He has a situation.
I can only use the heater in the bedroom,
so it's very cold in the living room.
The switch for the living room is in the area where I can't use.
- That's why. - I guess he has a situation.
I heard from the staff members of "Mom's Diary"...
that it's really cold there.
(We're relieved that it's spring now.)
If you rank celebrities in order of how busy they are lately,
these guests must be ranked first in the world as well as in Korea.
- Exactly. - It's hard to see them.
Our staff members were happy...
when they decided to invite them, but it was very hard to do it.
Does any one of the members of your group...
have a problem that you want him to fix?
Does anyone make you worry?
(Well...)
You can tell us honestly.
I'll tell you about Min Hyun.
He is very neat and tidy.
He's very clean.
After eating, we have leftover food.
- There's a food waste bag, right? - Yes.
We put the waste in the waste bag,
but Min Hyun said that if we leave it in the house,
- it would smell bad. - Right.
Our house is warm as we use the heater in winter.
He can't even turn the heater on.
Right. Don't say that in front of him.
He can't even turn it on.
- As food goes bad... - It stinks naturally.
- So I think it's better... - You throw it away immediately.
if we keep the waste bag with food waste in the freezer.
- In the freezer? - Yes.
- That's a good idea. - He's so clean.
You might think it's food and heat it up in the microwave.
You would be shocked by the smell.
It happened to me.
My neighbours came to my house because of the smell.
I know that you guys have so many talents.
Please show us a bit.
Talents?
Since I'm a vocalist in our group,
I will sing for Yeong Ja.
I'll sing a love song.
My goodness. I'm so excited.
Gosh. What is going on?
Seriously.
I don't believe this.
What's with you?
They're sitting face to face.
He might sing...
Dad, cheer up
- Don't do that. - Okay. I won't.
(Her heart is fluttering.)
(I am so thankful for you)
(You are so beautiful)
He's good.
(I can't take my eyes off you)
(She's mesmerized.)
(I just want to look at you forever)
(His sweet voice makes her heart flutter.)
(Romantic)
You have such a strong mind.
From today, this song is my national anthem.
Your national anthem? My gosh.
It's her national anthem.
Jae Hwan, sing one more song.
- One more song? - Yes.
I'm also a rapper in my group.
We have the first rapper in Korea.
Please don't say that.
That's why I'm going to do Sang Min's rap.
- Really? - That's great.
(Really?)
(Warming up his voice)
(He has swag.)
(Don't even think of begging me to come back)
(He bursts out laughing.)
(Everyone laughs hard.)
(I won't go back)
(Jae Hwan's rap made everyone laugh.)
- Sang Min is the best at that rap. - Show us.
- Show us. - He's one of a kind.
Don't even think of begging me to come back
I don't want to look sad about the breakup
Everyone looks at me
(I admire you.)
They're all stupid just like me
(He's as great as he used to be.)
He's the best.
I'm going to show you my unusual talent.
What is it?
- I'll imitate haegeum sound. - Haegeum?
- You'll imitate it with your mouth? - Yes, I can imitate the sound...
with my mouth.
(They're excited.)
(He starts imitating the sound.)
(He looks so serious.)
(I've never seen anyone imitating the haegeum sound.)
Look at his face.
(Embarrassed)
I think anyone can do that.
Please do your rap while Seong Woo is making haegeum sound.
It would be fun if you two perform together at the same time.
Let's start with haegeum.
(The combination of traditional Korean music and rap)
Don't even think of begging me to come back
(This is not "Immortal Songs".)
I don't want to look sad about the breakup
(Imitating the haegeum sound)
Everyone looks at me
(His face turns red.)
(Sang Min and Seong Woo make a great duo.)
I think the clip of you two will go viral.
Since Wanna One members are here, we should see them dance.
(This is their first time performing this song on TV.)
("IPU" by Wanna One)
(Is this really happening?)
(This is how great Wanna One is.)
(Kissing)
(Spring has come!)
(I promise you.)
Today, we have three stories as always.
I wonder what they are. Show us the keywords please.
- "My Man's Cave". - "Give Me a Break".
"Promise Me You Will Give Up".
It's "My Man's Cave".
Hello. I'm a married woman in Daegu. I've been married for four years.
Being married still doesn't feel real.
Here's why.
"Honey, come out. Let's eat."
"Honey, are you sleeping again?"
"Are you alive?"
That's right. My husband is cooped up in his room all the time.
- He never comes out of his room. - Gosh.
That's not all. We have a three-year-old child.
"Dad. Dad."
Are you sure the baby is three?
"Dad."
"Gosh. Get out!"
My goodness.
He pushed a three-year-old baby out.
Then he even locked the door.
What's wrong with him?
I wonder if he's hiding a treasure box or something.
"What do you do in your room? Why don't you live alone?"
"Why did you even marry me?"
"Please just pretend that you didn't see me."
"Think that I don't exist."
"Can't we live like that?"
(It's frustrating.)
I've argued with him and complained how stressed I was,
- but he hasn't changed at all. - That's weird.
I will bring my husband to the show.
So please convince him to get out of his room by any means.
I see.
Let's meet our guest. Please come out.
(Whose husband is always cooped up in his room?)
(Jung Jin Ae)
Your senior singer stood up, guys.
He's so diligent.
(Sang Min escorts her like a gentleman.)
Does your husband really stay in his room all the time?
As if he's living by himself, when he comes home after work,
he coops himself in his room.
(I see.)
When I go into that room or touch his computer,
he says, "Don't touch it. Get out of my room."
Even when our three-year-old baby tries to touch it,
he says, "Gosh, get out!" Then he locks the door.
(Is he really the dad?)
You must've seen what he did in his room.
I was curious, so I sneaked into his room and saw what he was doing.
I saw a lot of celebrities' photos and adult movies...
- on his computer. - He doesn't have mine, does he?
(She means it.)
(What did I just hear?)
- Our guest is also laughing. - She burst out laughing.
- She's laughing hard. - She can't help it.
I'm a celebrity too. There could be a video of me.
Guys, there could be a video of me...
- viewed by many people. - There's a legendary video of her.
- Are you afraid of your husband? - It's not like that.
Then why can't you confront him?
I want to ask her the same question.
"What's wrong with you? How could you yell at your own child?"
You could get angry at him.
I complained how stressed I was...
and said I would divorce him,
but he only changed for a while.
Was there a reason for him to change...
after you got married?
I think he changed after I gave birth.
After you had a child?
Do you not spend much time with your husband?
Not at all.
(Her husband doesn't spend any time with her.)
Does he help you with house chores or taking care of your baby?
- Does he? - Not at all.
He even pushed his child. He wouldn't look after his child.
Does he make a lot of money?
Is that why he's so confident?
I mean...
- His question makes us feel good. - If you think about it,
she's been putting up with him for over three years.
There must be something that her husband does...
- that helps her put up with him. - That's right.
I think there must be a reason.
Both of us have a job.
- Both of you have a job? - Yes.
- Do you also have a job? - Yes.
(She looks after her baby, does house chores, and works.)
What shocked everyone here before...
was the fact that he asked you to treat him as if he's invisible.
You wrote that in your letter.
He asked her to pretend she doesn't see him.
When we go on an outing together,
he says, "Think that I don't exist, and have a good time without me."
"You can pretend that you don't see me."
I'm speechless. How was he when you two were dating?
Was he attentive?
Well, he was better than now.
She brought her husband here. Where is he?
- Hello. - Hello.
The audience members usually applaud loudly,
but they all looked a bit upset.
(He caught us.)
Do you understand why your wife is worried?
When I come home after work,
I want to spend some time alone...
before I go to sleep.
It's okay if it's just a while, but you stay in your room all day long.
You never come out of your room. You even pushed your child.
I play on the computer and with my phone.
- You look at celebrities' photos. - Yes.
While doing so, I lose track of time.
- That's natural. - Of course that happens.
May I ask whose photos do you look at usually?
- Well, I like... - It's not me, is it?
No.
Kim Sa Rang.
Kim Sa Rang? I see.
(I'm speechless.)
What do you mostly do in your room?
I play video games mostly.
- You play video games? - Yes.
Why don't you let her touch your computer? I don't understand that.
There's nothing wrong about it.
I want to cherish my stuff,
but my wife tends to break things easily.
Everything she touches breaks so easily.
She even broke a knife while cutting a potato.
- How is that possible? - That's hard to believe.
I don't want her to touch my stuff because of that.
Let's put it aside for now.
Why don't you cherish your own child?
You pushed your child and locked the door.
That's because my child...
comes into my room at the wrong time.
While you're playing a video game?
What makes that moment so crucial?
Spending time with your child is the most important.
If a child can tell when it's the right time,
that child can't be considered a child.
How can a three-year-old know that?
"I shouldn't go in there since Dad is playing a video game."
That's nonsense.
I was in the middle of war.
You were playing a video game.
- "I was in the middle of war." - He was playing a video game.
Do you go on an outing with your family often?
It's a hassle to go out with them.
Also, if I go out with them, I can't complete...
the daily quests in the games I play.
(She grits her teeth.)
What are daily quests?
Every day,
- you complete the missions... - You complete them.
- to receive items. - Is he talking about a game?
Yes, I think so.
Even when we go out together,
it doesn't feel right if I haven't completed...
- the daily quests. - You feel anxious.
- Yes. - He is addicted to the game.
Shouldn't you receive daily quests...
from your wife and son...
as a dad?
(Cheering)
My goodness.
That's right.
He should receive daily quests.
You did a good job by chiming in.
When I come back from work,
- I... - You need alone time.
I get upset when I don't get alone time.
Your wife works, too.
She probably wants to enjoy alone time as well.
If you are going to behave that way,
you shouldn't have gotten married.
You tell your wife to treat you like you don't exist...
and to do everything without you.
- It's irresponsible. - Think about it.
A lot of people get angry and say,
"Why do you act like I don't exist?"
No one says, "Treat me like I don't exist."
Your behaviour is the complete opposite.
Why did you say that?
I was playing game at home...
when she continued to ask me to do things.
Since she kept breaking my concentration,
I found her troublesome.
Did you know that your husband is absorbed...
- in game? - He is addicted.
When we were newlyweds, I was at home with the baby...
when he suddenly came home around lunchtime.
I wondered if he missed me.
Apparently, he had come to put the game...
on autopilot.
- He came home from work. - Yes.
He hadn't even notified the company.
After putting the game on autopilot, he left without looking back.
When we were at a crossroad,
I had my eyes on the child. I followed him...
when he crossed the road, but the light was red.
- My goodness. - We almost had an accident.
- That's dangerous. - That could have ended badly.
How did the two of you meet?
- We met at work. - You met at work.
- You were co-workers. - A couple in the company.
- Yes. - Did you make advances at her?
She made advances at me.
Is that true?
He seemed decent.
He does seem decent.
His looks are fine.
The thing is, his looks...
are fine.
(His looks hid a twist.)
Was he already addicted to games...
and uncaring about the marriage?
That's right.
Please tell us honestly. We are curious.
In the beginning,
I didn't play games a lot.
Is that right?
I don't get out of work until late.
When I come home, it's about 9pm or 10pm.
You come home late.
When I come home,
my wife just goes, "Young Won, your dad is home."
It hurts my feelings.
How do you want your wife to greet you?
You want her to be happy to see you.
- Yes. - "Wow. My goodness!"
"You are home."
"Son!" Is that what you want? I want to know.
"You did a good job." I want to hear that.
We heard earlier that...
you and your wife grew apart...
after the child was born.
I don't understand how that's possible.
When the child was born,
our diet changed to suit his needs.
It happens to every family.
- The lifestyle itself... - It happens to every family.
Let's hear him out.
If I hug my wife from the back when she does the dishes,
she hates it.
She gives me a disgusted look.
To me, my wife comes first...
and my child comes second.
That's not the case for my wife.
I see.
You don't like it when he hugs you from the back.
I never cared much for physical contact.
Taking care of a child...
on top of doing household chores and keeping a job...
- exhausts me. - That's right.
- It's exhausting. - I want to rest at home.
I have no time...
for physical contact.
Every woman focuses on a child after he or she is born,
not the husband.
Once a woman has a child,
she gets hormones that make her focus on the child...
until he or she has grown up.
That's not a reason that made you become addicted to games.
His words made me understand...
where he is coming from.
- That's right. - He wants his wife...
to treat and love him...
- as if he is a child. - That's right.
Now that her attention shifted to the child,
his dissatisfaction gave way to the game addiction.
Did you know about his thoughts?
He said you come first.
Have you felt it?
Yes. He tells me every day...
he wants to be prioritized.
When I am feeding the child,
- he asks me to feed him first. - What?
- When I buy clothes, - That's ridiculous.
- he asks me to buy his first. - This is bad.
Could it be that you are neglecting your husband...
to take care of the child?
Don't all mothers do that?
Since babies can't talk, mothers prioritize them.
When I hug or kiss the baby,
he goes, "Do it to me first."
He always has to come first.
He feels upset...
because he feels like he comes second.
You must have tried hard.
You must have pretended.
When I ask him...
to drink beer with me,
he drinks a little and goes back to his room.
He plays games.
Nothing gives a lasting result.
She must have prioritized you...
when she drank beer with you.
Why did you go back to your room?
I had to check if the game was going well.
(My goodness.)
Your words don't add up.
- You are making no sense. - Your words don't add up.
You are coming up with excuses.
When she drinks with you,
she is making the time...
to be your wife only.
To be honest,
when I come out to spend time with the family,
my wife goes,
"Go back into your room and play a game."
She says that.
What does that mean?
Why did you say that?
Even when he comes out,
he lies down and stares at his mobile phone.
He doesn't interact with the family.
- I would rather not see him. - You sent him to his room...
because you didn't want to see him.
She has a point.
Did you go back to your room despite your many attempts...
because of your wife's desperate plea?
It's not like that.
My wife is always busy at home.
She does this and that.
Please tell us what she does.
She does the laundry, the dishes,
- and cleans the rooms. - What else does she do?
I think the chores help with her diet.
Is that why you let her be?
- Is that why you don't help? - It looks nice.
His words let us know...
how selfish he is.
You suddenly said...
she is in need of a diet.
What do you mean by that?
She is perfect and beautiful.
(Her heart flutters.)
Don't trust his words entirely.
Min Hyun said some nice words.
Please answer his question.
Her legs are skinny,
- but her arms aren't. - Her legs are skinny.
I wish she had a slim waist.
(Disgusted)
(Unbelievable)
- He is the worst. - Is that why you stare...
at Kim Sa Rang's pictures in your room?
Listening to him...
makes me feel like I ate 300 sweet potatoes.
Seriously.
He doesn't help with chores or childcare, does he?
He has never set the table.
- Not even once in four years? - Yes.
When your wife is busy...
with household chores,
- what do you do? - He should help her.
He plays games.
Don't you look after the child?
He refuses to come to me.
- He only goes to his mom. - Since he never plays with his son,
- they aren't close. - What do you do?
Children are accurate when it comes to this matter.
- They run over to people... - That's right.
who play with them often for a hug.
They never go to people...
who don't give them love.
You must have made your husband...
look after the child.
I have done it once. I called him after work at 5pm.
"Honey, did you feed Young Won?"
"I fed him in the morning."
"It's 5pm now. I'm getting off work now."
"Didn't you feed him lunch?"
"He didn't say he was hungry."
He said the child didn't ask for food.
Why didn't you feed your child until 5pm?
He and I fell asleep after breakfast.
We slept for so long...
that we didn't eat lunch.
One time, my son had to be hospitalized for a week...
due to pneumonia.
When I looked after him for 24 hours straight,
he dropped by for 30 minutes.
When he was hospitalized,
I felt bad.
However, it was too taxing to stay at the hospital.
Your wife did it.
It must have been taxing for her, too.
- I... - Go ahead.
You have something to say.
I have panic disorder.
It's hard to get over this kind of a situation.
This kind of a situation is...
- It's frustrating, right? - It's frustrating.
It's understandable.
- You are angry. - I don't have panic disorder,
but this situation is incomprehensible and frustrating.
- Seriously. - All right.
Was it taxing on your mind or your body?
Was it taxing because you had to play games?
- Tell us honestly. - Being at the hospital itself...
was taxing.
Also,
my wife is very good at looking after the child.
She cherishes him.
That's why...
- Sang Min. - Yes?
Are you sick?
He is like a 5-year-old. He is 2 years older than his son.
That's right. He only thinks about himself.
Listening to his words lets me know that...
- he isn't bad... - He isn't bad.
or evil.
He isn't a man...
- who is wicked. - You are right.
He is very immature.
He cares only about himself.
- Only himself. - It's like raising two kids.
If he was a bad person, it'd be easier to make a decision.
- But it's not clear. - It drives you...
- crazy. - It's even harder.
Your parents-in-law are here, right?
Did you know about your daughter-in-law's worry?
Yes, of course.
In the morning, she gets ready for work and drops off her kid.
After work, she picks up her kid, washes him,
feeds him, does the dishes, does the laundry,
and cleans the apartment. She's very busy.
Our son is addicted to games and never helps her out.
It must be very hard for our daughter-in-law.
Sir, did you know about it?
When families gather on holidays,
I want my son to stay and talk with us.
But he disappears after a moment.
- Even at his parents' place. - He's like a teenager.
Were you different when you were young?
Your son looks just like you.
When...
When I was young, there were no computer games.
What was your son like before he got married?
He played a lot of games back then too.
- Exactly. - When he said...
he was unhappy that he's not his wife's number one priority,
he was just giving an excuse.
He is simply addicted to computer games.
He is addicted.
Let me ask his mother.
In elementary school, he went to the video arcade a lot.
- It goes back a long way. - Yes.
(30 years of history)
He gave me a lot of headaches.
Did you just leave him alone?
- Or... - We fought a lot.
(They fought a lot.)
- But it didn't work. - Of course not.
- He didn't change. - No.
Have you ever been addicted to computer games?
Most people like playing games.
We all like playing games.
But after playing games for a few hours,
I want to do something else.
Your grandson doesn't like being with his dad.
Does he like being with you?
Yes. Kids like to be with people that are nice to them.
- Of course. - As Dong Yeob said.
As his dad doesn't play with him a lot,
he comes to me.
I play with him a lot.
He likes being with me.
I see.
Their son is here too.
- He's so cute. - Hi.
Hi.
He's so cute.
Wanna One members are the youngest here. Say hi.
- Hi. - Hi.
- If I were his dad, - He's so cute.
- I'd want to go home and see him. - He's so cute.
- Young Won, do something cute. - He's handsome.
Yes, he is.
He's so cute.
- Do you want to go to your dad? - Your dad.
Where is your dad? Go to Daddy.
He is a good son.
He understands the situation.
Young Won, do you like Daddy?
Don't be afraid.
Let's see how he acts when he is with his grandpa.
(He is pointing at his grandpa.)
When he is in his dad's arms...
- He wants to go to his grandpa. - His grandpa...
(He didn't stay with his dad for 5 minutes.)
Grandpa...
Young Won, you're with your grandpa now.
(Comfortable)
Do you like Grandpa?
Yes.
(Yes)
Do you like Mommy?
- He's pointing at his grandpa. - Grandpa.
He likes his grandpa the most.
Isn't Young Won so cute?
He is.
I'm so shocked.
When he called you, you got angry with him.
It was an important moment, and he came in.
An important moment?
Are games that important?
Your husband doesn't seem to listen to you.
He looks down on me.
When I say something, he calls me stupid.
- What? - He does that often.
When I say something, he calls me stupid.
He says I embarrass him.
He tells me to stay quiet when I meet his colleagues.
Why do you look down on your wife?
How do you feel when he says those things?
In the end, you believe those words.
"He must be right."
- You become used to it. - Yes. I just accept it.
"I shouldn't say anything when I'm with people."
- Goodness. - I've become used to it.
I become very careful when I say something.
Didn't you know your words would...
hurt your wife?
We live together, and we're very close.
That's why I say those things. I didn't mean to hurt her.
But...
How could you call your wife stupid?
My wife can be a bit silly.
For example, we were watching the Olympics.
She said to my dad,
"Father, I guess the Olympics should be held only in the winter."
"You need ice."
My father said, "It's the Winter Olympics."
- That's cute. - That's cute.
(This is not what I was expecting.)
That's so cute.
She didn't say anything wrong.
It can't be held in the summer.
Look.
That's why...
I want her to talk less.
Please don't call her stupid.
- Never. - Don't tell her to be quiet.
Don't call her stupid.
There are so many things I want to say to you.
I want to say all the bad words I know to you...
as a present.
I'm just holding it back.
The fact that you say those things to your wife shows that...
you're the stupid one.
How could you say such things to someone else?
Your wife at that?
You might think your wife is silly, but do you know why?
You have time to follow all trends and news...
through your smartphone.
Your wife doesn't.
If she did, she'd be able to keep up with you.
When you were dating, you thought she was cute, right?
- Yes. She was funny. - You thought she was lovely.
- Yes. - But after spending years together,
you think she is silly.
- That's right. - You're self-centered.
"Why don't you do the laundry?" "My wife does it better."
"Why don't you look after your kid?" "My wife does it better."
You're so self-centered.
You should change.
You just heard that your son called...
his wife stupid.
Did you know about it?
- No. - How do you feel?
He shouldn't say those things.
Among the things your husband has said to you, what hurt you the most?
(Eyes shaking)
- He looks surprised. - He suddenly...
- He looks puzzled. - He was taking care of the kid.
He was surprised.
How would you like your husband to change?
There's only one thing.
I want him to spend more time with our kid.
I'd love to spend some time alone with my kid.
But he always wants to go to his mom.
I want my wife to go out...
so that I can...
You don't even feed your kid.
She can't trust you.
If you were given two hours, what would you like to do?
I want to get some good sleep.
- What? - She wants some good sleep.
How many hours do you sleep?
I go to bed around 11pm and have to wake up around 5am...
and get ready for work.
How do you feel now?
I think she sleeps a lot.
She sleeps a lot?
But she still feels tired.
She's always tired.
Is there something you want to ask of your wife?
If I can spend two hours on my own...
after work,
I'll try to spend more time with my family.
You come home around 9pm, and your wife goes to bed at 11pm.
You won't have any time to talk to her.
Even before he got married, he played a lot of games.
His parents were worried about it too.
You sound...
- a bit irresponsible. - Right.
You should quit.
You should take it seriously and try to change.
What is your goal?
I want to have a happy family.
(Happy family?)
I want to have fun with my family.
The biggest problem is that...
he's become used to this kind of life.
He's been living that way for 42 years.
- It must be very hard to change. - That's right.
- It's a difficult task. - If you keep living...
the way you're used to, you'll lose something important.
That's the way it is.
He says he's been trying,
but he doesn't sound serious.
I think I understand you.
You're not a bad person. You're just immature.
There's something I believe in.
A kid should marry a kid.
A grown-up should marry a grown-up.
A grown-up suffers too much if he or she marries a kid.
And people who are too immature should not get married.
You're very immature.
You should try to become more mature.
Say something to your husband determinedly.
I want you to cut back on playing games.
Speak more determinedly.
- Be assertive. - Be strong.
- Speak strongly. - He should quit.
I want you to quit playing games.
Please take care of our son more.
All right.
He's a nice person. I'm sure he'll change.
That's right.
Let's start with Sang Min. Is it a worry or not?
It's a worry.
- Seong Woo. - It's a worry.
What would be the reason?
(What would be the reason?)
It's a worry.
Okay. I can feel your sincerity.
- That's right. - You can't describe it with words.
- It's a worry. - You don't need an explanation...
to know it's a worry.
It's a worry.
- Min Hyun. - I also think it's a worry.
What's your reason?
Based on everything I heard, it's a worry.
- Jae Hwan, is it a worry? - "Based on everything I heard".
I also think it's a worry.
What's your reason?
I feel bad for Jin Ae.
Would you sing a song for her?
- Sing her a song of consolation. - A song?
(It's okay, everything will be fine)
(He mumbles the lyrics.)
(Jae Hwan sings to cheer her up.)
Please get ready to press the button.
You have heard the story.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(Please send us your stories.)
"My Man's Cave".
- In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Time's up. - Please stop.
Say a few words to your wife.
Listening to people...
makes me realize that I am in the wrong.
I will do my best to change.
Please believe me once more.
Let's live happily.
Tell her how much you love her.
You still come first to me, not Young Won.
How many votes did the worry get? Show us the result.
I bet it got a lot of votes.
Out of 200 people...
(How many votes will it get?)
163?
173? 163?
It got a lot of votes.
(163 votes)
This person sent us a worry...
because he is struggling...
due to someone who doesn't give up.
"Promise Me You Will Give Up".
Hello, I am a man in my 20s with a lot of worries.
I have a younger sister...
who always heard these words when she was growing up.
"Gosh, you are tall."
"You should be a model."
That's how my sister came to dream about becoming a model.
However, it led to my internal struggles.
"Until when will you laze around?"
"Stay out of my business."
"I will be a model."
"You shouldn't eat so much if you want to be a model."
"Stay out of my business."
My sister says she will be a model, but she lies down...
and watches TV, eats late-night snacks, and drinks.
She has lived this way for five years.
It has gone on for a while.
(She has lived this way for 5 years.)
One day, she went...
"I got a job. I will save up money..."
"so that I can go to an academy to be a model."
I thought she had come around.
"I don't want to go to work. I am going to quit."
She repeatedly quit work a few days after going.
As far as I know, it was over 25 times...
that she quit work.
My sister continues to dream without making an effort.
Please help my sister give up on her dream.
(Please help my sister give up on her dream.)
This worry was sent by a man...
whose worry involves a sister who is wasting her life.
Please come on out.
- It's a man. - It's a man.
(Kim Dong Joo)
(He is tall as well.)
(Welcome)
Your sister must be tall to hear those words...
from an early age.
Yes.
- How tall is she? - 175 or 174cm.
She is tall enough to be a model.
How does she waste her life...
that you decided to send us a worry?
People who are preparing to become a model...
live their lives diligently.
- They take care of themselves. - They go to auditions.
That's right. They go to auditions.
My sister doesn't make any effort.
She eats late-night snacks...
without worrying about her weight.
She drinks a lot.
She can drink three bottles in one sitting.
One day...
I live in Hongseong and my sister lives in Cheonan.
When I enter her place,
I am not greeted by my sister,
but by bottles of soju.
I thought she had gathered the empty bottles for money,
but she proudly declared she drank all of them.
(I drank all of them.)
She lives away from you.
- Why? - After my sister graduated...
from school,
she said she will work...
so that she can pay for a modelling academy.
She got a job in Cheonan.
However, the longest she has lasted is three months.
There have been times she only lasted 3 weeks or 1 month.
(It's a worry.)
Do you think your sister has...
potentials as a model?
I am not sure.
(He reveals how he really thinks.)
She did get her profile pictures taken...
for events at her school.
Those pictures look...
quite fancy. She looks like a model...
in those pictures.
- She carries that air. - Yes.
Yes, she reminded me of Jang Yoon Ju.
(Jang Yoon Ju?)
(Really?)
Let's talk to his sister.
Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
Please stand up.
She is 174cm tall.
She is tall.
Please make a turn.
- Please strike a pose. - Please strike a pose.
(You already stood up.)
Strike a pose.
(Does she look like a model?)
She is embarrassed.
(Haughty and embarrassed)
That's right.
- She is quite tall. - She's pretty tall.
Your brother sent us a story.
Do you understand his worry?
Yes, even I would be frustrated.
Really?
Even I would be frustrated.
Then why do you live that way?
You aren't desperate, are you?
No, I am desperate.
Why haven't you shown your passion in the last five years?
- Why do you live that way? - I lack confidence.
It's not like I have a pretty face.
As you know,
- models don't necessarily have... - That's right.
a pretty face.
Having a fit body and a sense of style...
is more important.
Your brother says you laze around at home.
Will you be a model who only lies down?
Is there such a thing?
She will lie down like that.
She doesn't make an effort.
To become a model,
you should go to auditions...
and try to open new doors.
You aren't doing that.
I lack confidence.
It's a ridiculous excuse.
For something you want, you should find the confidence.
If I may ask, how old are you?
- I am 27 years old. - You are 27 years old.
- It's time to make a decision. - 27 years old?
Why do you lack confidence?
I reach a conclusion by myself...
and close the door in my heart.
You think, "I can't do it."
Yes. I think, "I can't do it."
However, another part of me...
wants to give it a try. I don't want to give up,
but I lack confidence.
When it's time to make a decision, you go, "I can't do it."
Later on, you go, "I have to do this."
"This is what I want to do."
Does the cycle repeat itself?
That means you never tried.
I never tried.
Why do you want to be a model?
Back in college,
I have taken the stage...
for a senior project.
When I walked down the runway, a lot of people looked at me.
It was an exhilarating experience.
You drink every day.
Why do you drink so much?
Even I find myself insignificant.
- You are frustrated. - Drinking...
makes me feel better and organizes my thoughts.
That's why I keep drinking.
I love drinking with my friends.
It's fun to talk to them.
(Sighing)
Your brother said that...
you quit work too easily.
A big part of working in a factory is comprised of people.
Struggling with work is okay, but struggling with people...
is something I can't stand.
I quit when I can't get used to the situation.
You must have found another job.
- Yes. - Did the same thing happen?
Yes. I guess I didn't have the drive.
It seems that way.
Your brother said...
you oversleep...
- and refuse to go to work. - There are times...
you desperately don't want to do anything.
(It's her cry for freedom.)
- "I don't want to do anything!" - Seriously.
"I don't want to do anything!"
It lasted too long.
I am regretful now.
You just want to hang out, right?
You like hanging out with your friends.
Yes.
How long was the shortest period you held a job?
Half a day.
- Half a day. - What?
(Half a day)
- Half a day. - What?
I wouldn't call that a job. You only visited.
I went to eat.
- Did you go home after half a day? - Yes.
You didn't think about the others.
You were irresponsible.
Even though you had visited the company...
for a job, you quit on a whim.
Where did you get that kind of confidence?
(She said she doesn't have confidence.)
(You need to grow up.)
I think you should have examined where you are...
and make concrete future plans.
Do you have plans?
- Your brother wants to hear them. - That's right.
I want to give it a go one last time.
I want to work for a year...
and come to Seoul to live in a cheap room.
Then I will enrol in an academy...
and work part-time...
to learn modelling from the start.
How much money do you plan to save?
My rough estimate is...
about 10,000 dollars.
- Yes. - How much did you save up?
- Right now? - Right now.
Right now, I have 2,000 dollars.
How can you save 10,000 dollars within a year?
You're not doing any work.
- I am working right now. - Do you...
- Do you plan to keep working there? - Yes.
She wants you to cut her slack for just a year.
But she's been saying that for 4 to 5 years now.
She's been asking you to cut her slack for a year?
- Yes. - Has she been saying this?
Yes. Yes. She has to...
work hard whenever...
she has time.
But she goes clubbing whenever she has time.
Our mother's friend must've seen her at a night club.
When she went home, she called my mother and told her this.
She saw my sister at the night club.
And she was dancing like crazy...
on the stage with her hair down.
- Your mother's friend said that? - Yes.
Why did your mother's friend go to the night club?
I don't know.
It's understandable for your sister.
- They went to the same club? - I know.
Are there people of different age groups at that club?
- It's... - I am curious.
After midnight, new customers come in.
- New customers come in? - Yes.
Who are there before midnight?
Before midnight, there are older people.
And after midnight?
There are young people.
Did your mother's friend not go home on time? Or did you go early?
She didn't go home on time.
(She puts the blame one her mother's friend.)
She didn't go home on time.
(Her mother's friend worked overtime.)
That felt good.
- I wondered what happened. - The mystery has been solved.
- It's that lady's fault. - She's at fault.
She was bad.
Let me ask you this. Does she keep asking you for money?
Does she ask for money? Yes.
I don't mind giving her money, but I'm worried that she's too immature.
It's like this.
One day, she would call me and ask for 50 cents.
- Or a dollar. It's like... - 50 cents? A dollar?
- a micro payment. - 50 cents or a dollar?
What is she trying to do with that money?
I am not sure. She asks for 50 cents or a dollar.
- She's been doing that. These days, - What is that?
she asks for a lot of money to go to a clinic.
She asked me for 150 dollars to buy clothes.
- The amount is bigger now. - Yes. She asked for 200 dollars...
to go the clinic.
It's really tough.
How much do you give her in a month?
Sometimes, I give her up to 800 dollars a day.
Sometimes, she spends only about 100 dollars a day.
- Sometimes, it's 800 dollars. - Yes. That's a lot.
- He's such a good brother. - He is.
Why do you ask him for 50 cents or a dollar?
Is it because you have 9.50 dollars in your account?
What is that?
I was just giving him a hint.
Were you asking for 5,000 dollars? But he...
He gave her 50 cents.
My goodness.
She asked for 5,000 dollars, but he sent her 50 cents.
His friends are here. Let's talk to them.
- Hello. - I am Dong Joo's friend.
Dong Joo asked me...
to hire Hye Jung to work at the company I work for.
And I got her a job.
We always...
carpooled to go to work.
Because she was staying at a dorm,
I woke her up and waited until she came out.
Then I drove her to work.
One day, she sent me a text message.
"I am going to quit my job."
"I'm going to Cheonan." She quit her job like that.
That made things awkward...
- for me at the company. - Right.
You could refer your friend to the company before,
but they got rid of that policy after that incident.
- They got rid of the policy? - Yes.
Even if you're close to him,
shouldn't you have been more considerate of him?
It's so irresponsible to quit your job with a text message.
I didn't just send a text message.
I told the team leader that I want to quit my job.
After that, I went to the dorm, packed up my things.
Because he didn't know what happened, he texted me.
So I told him that I had quit, and he asked me why.
Do you know that she wants to be a model?
Dong Joo told me that Hye Jung studied modelling in college,
so I knew. But when we worked together,
she didn't take care of her body at all.
She didn't do anything to be a model,
so I assumed that she had given up.
I thought she must've given it up to not do anything.
I'm Hye Jung's high school friend. We've been friends for 10 years.
Dong Joo calls me a spy.
- A spy. - Yes. When Hye Jung...
gets a call from her family, she gets nagged a lot,
so she doesn't usually answer the phone.
So Dong Joo often calls me and asks where Hye Jung is.
He asks me why Hye Jung is not picking up her phone.
I call Hye Jung and find out that she's out drinking.
Then I call Dong Joo back and tell him that she's out drinking.
- You're working hard. - I cannot not...
tell Dong Joo where she is, but I feel sorry to Hye Jung.
Many times, I'm put in an awkward situation.
It must've been hard on you.
Honestly, as her friend, do you think she's got a chance as a model?
Body is important for a model, but having a unique face...
is also important.
You know the model Hong Jin Kyung, right?
Yes. Right.
She looks a lot like her.
Both of them have an elongated face.
- She looks like Jin Kyung. - You've been...
seeing her since she was young.
- She looks a bit like her. - She has the unique face.
But she's always pessimistic, and she lacks confidence.
Right.
- That's the problem. - When she sees girls on streets,
she asks me if she's fatter or if they are fatter.
She always complains about not being beautiful. She's pessimistic.
- She's got no self-esteem. - I feel bad for her.
Do you have a role model? Is it Hong Jin Kyung?
It's Han Hye Jin.
Why? Why is your role model her when you look like Jin Kyung?
What do you like so much about Hye Jin?
She is friendly, but while working, she acts like a professional.
I love that about her.
You can see how Hye Jin has lived then.
You can model your life after your role model's life.
But there's another problem
When she works, she gets paid, no matter how small it may be.
- She gets loose. - She drinks with that money.
She drinks with that money and doesn't pay for her phone bill.
- Her rent is overdue too. - She saved 2,000 dollars.
That's what happened in the past.
- I already paid for everything. - Did you pay for it?
I was worried about her overdue rent.
It seems like you are not going to be friends for a while.
She's not going to answer your phone either.
Have you ever thought about doing something else?
Not yet.
Not yet. It's fascinating.
- She has never given it a shot. - Never.
She has never worked as a model.
But she's been dreaming of being a model all along.
- That's hard to understand. - She lacks confidence too.
You're the type of person we have never seen before.
Whatever you do,
your family back in Hongseong must worry about you.
Why don't you answer your phone?
They keep saying the same things over and over.
It's because you keep doing the same things over and over.
Why would they repeat it if you are changed?
- They do it because... - Right.
you keep repeating the things you do.
- By the way, - That's why.
how did you manage to reach her?
I did something.
He sent me 80 text messages.
He said we are going to be on Hello.
I told him I wouldn't go.
When I told him, he said I should tell the writer myself.
So I talked to the writer on the phone.
And she talked so well.
Well done.
She works hard.
When she chooses you, there's no getting out.
Once you talk to her, the game is over.
It's almost like voice phishing.
(Hello is waiting for your stories.)
It must be tough for your parents.
Yes. We don't live close by.
It's not like she picks up her phone well.
My mother finds it hard.
Hye Jung once told her this.
She told her they should break off the family relations...
if she will keep nagging.
- What? - And it made Mom really sad.
She called me and said that it made her really sad.
Did you really tell your mom that you should break the relations?
I'll explain what happened. I complained about things to her.
I told her that things were tough.
And I asked for her advice. She got frustrated hearing my concerns...
so she called Dong Joo. Soon he called me...
and suddenly swore at me. He cursed at me.
(He cursed at his sister.)
He said our family doesn't need someone like me.
And he said I should break relations with Mom.
- That's why... - So...
- Your brother said that first? - Did you call...
your mother on impulse and suggest that you break relations?
- No, she called me. - And?
I was trying to calm myself when I got a call from her.
So I blamed her for telling Dong Joo what I told her.
Is that why you suggested that you break relations?
Yes. I became the same person as he.
But I was really hurt.
It's not like I got a private loan. It's not like I got a lot of debts.
I just...
(I was hurt too.)
He was just really worried.
- But he got emotional. - Why did you...
- say that to your sister? - It's...
Mom supported Hye Jung a lot...
so that she can be successful.
My parents are farmers. You can't earn...
a lot with farming. Honestly.
So my mom works part-time at a rest stop. Every night.
In the morning and afternoon, she farms.
At night, she works part-time to support...
- My goodness. To support us. - She farms.
She farms and does a part-time job on top of that.
She works at night.
One day, I went there to surprise her.
When I went there,
she was apologizing to a customer.
"Why is she so sorry?"
- You saw it. - Yes, I did.
(He saw his mother apologizing to a customer.)
I didn't like seeing that.
- Of course. - When I was...
turning my head away,
her hands caught my attention.
Because she farms, her hands were stained with soil.
No matter how many times she washes them, they were black.
And...
she was apologizing to that person for us.
Honestly, she must have not wanted to go through it.
No one wants to be in that position.
She wouldn't have wanted it.
But she kept apologizing,
and the man shouted louder and louder.
It was so hard to watch, so I just turned around...
and went home.
That's why I called her and asked why we're giving Mom a hard time.
(Why are we making Mom's life miserable?)
- I said we should be better. - That's why you became...
- upset at your sister. - I said we should...
I'm tearing up.
Can I have some water?
- Here. - Have some water.
(Everyone thinks of their mother.)
That's why...
he swore at you.
How do you feel now that you've heard it?
That must've made him very emotional.
I was telling her that we should treat Mom well.
But your sister was still acting immature.
- Yes. - Is that why you cursed at her?
I was so upset.
That's why I told her we should break relations...
so that Mom and I don't have to worry about her.
I felt so sorry for Mom.
My gosh.
I don't know what to say first.
I want to give her advices.
She should...
look for modelling agencies.
And she should find modelling work,
whether it's for a clothing retail shop or for a clothing brand.
She should experience the industry first...
and see if it's for her or not.
If you think you have a chance,
you can choose your niche.
You can discuss about it with your brother...
- Yes, with her brother. - and give it a try for just a year.
If it doesn't work, drop it.
Give yourself a realistic time limit.
- Yes. - I am a little suspicious about it.
I am suspicious of her.
If this was really her dream, she would have done...
- whatever she could do. - Of course.
When you like something, you look for ways to make it happen.
She would've gone on a diet, practiced walking,
and looked for modelling agencies.
But she's not doing any of that.
Overall, you are very negative.
Why do you think you became so negative?
When I was little,
because my face was elongated,
- Please hold the mic closer. - I got bullied by boys a lot.
I am getting bullied even now.
It was too tough.
(She's been bullied for her appearance.)
But you can't change what you are given.
- Her self-esteem is very low. - You always complain...
about why your face is so elongated...
and be negative about it,
but there's nothing you can do about it.
You should just accept it and try to overcome it.
In case of Yeong Ja,
she's now famous all over the nation,
and she's a big star.
But how many times did you fail the comedian audition?
I told people that I failed 4 times. But I actually failed 8 times.
In the end, I didn't make it.
But I kept taking comedy-related jobs.
- And I became famous. So later... - They found you.
- They found her. - Yes.
They saw her...
- presenting events. - Yes.
It's good that Wanna One is here.
(Wanna One achieved their dream.)
Right now, they are...
beloved by many, and it looks like they have good life.
But they went through so much to get here.
Honestly, how hard did you try to be here?
- You deserve to boast about it. - You deserve it.
- Right. - Please tell us.
- I will carefully say this. - Okay.
She said she is...
desperate to become a model.
In our case,
we joined the audition program...
- out of sheer desperation. - Right.
We really wanted to become Wanna One.
For six months we were on that program,
we only slept one hour a day.
Even after that program, we practiced at our new agency.
Right.
We put our heart and soul into this...
for six months to become Wanna One.
Right now, we are loved by many fans.
But you trained even before that.
How many years did you do it? When did you start?
I started when I was in ninth grade.
- Ninth grade? - Yes. That's when I moved to Seoul.
- You moved to Seoul for it? - Yes.
I heard Seong Woo just got lucky.
(Yeong Ja teases Seong Woo.)
- Don't say that. - Don't say that.
(His fans jeer at Yeong Ja.)
- All right. - I was just joking.
She was just joking.
She's doing her job.
- She was just joking. - I was joking.
What's wrong with you, girls?
I've had this dream for about 10 years.
In those 10 years, sometimes, I worked hard.
Sometimes, I just played.
I sometimes got discouraged and then worked hard again.
- There were many different moments. - Right.
But what I consider really important...
is confidence and self-esteem.
Not loving yourself...
Not loving...
your beautiful self is a problem.
- Right. - Yes.
Sometimes, I was discouraged.
Sometimes, I was humiliated.
- There were a lot of tough moments. - Of course.
But I always had the sense of self-respect.
- I believed I could do well. - You believed you could do it.
I believed that I will be successful and that I have potential.
There was hope that I can become someone important.
I think that's what...
kept me going.
I was just like her,
before I became Wanna One.
When I was in college,
I really wanted to sing on stage.
But I couldn't do that.
So I did a part-time job and rented a studio.
I used to practice there.
I was actually in a band.
I wanted to be a vocalist, so I was in a band.
- But when it came to dancing... - You didn't have the confidence.
I was very insecure about it.
But I was so desperate to become a singer...
that I just gave it a try.
At first, I thought I wasn't going to make it.
At first,
I thought I'd sing as best as I can and go home.
But thanks to my fans, I was able to make it.
Every week, he told me that he wasn't...
going to make it and that I should work hard.
He told me that every week.
But he still worked hard...
and continued to grow as he went further.
- He's great. - Keep going like that...
without the support of an agency...
is really...
He made it.
Sang Min,
as you all know,
was beloved as a singer and then started his own agency.
At the time, his agency was...
as great as SM and YG Entertainment.
Then he fell into the bottomless pit.
But he still valued..
himself greatly,
and he told everyone that.
I always say this to young people.
If you go crazy about something...
Even if you lack talent, if you go crazy,
people think you're artistic. That's the world we live in.
So in the past,
I wanted to be a singer, but I had nobody around me.
So...
I went to a band studio.
And I started there as a cleaner.
Then the band got a chance...
to perform at a show called "Big Show".
So for the first time, I got to visit a TV station.
In front of the station... Although nobody asked me,
I danced like crazy.
There were people in show business, so I wanted them to see me.
I just did my own dance. I was falling and...
I couldn't even dance.
And one of the producers there saw me dancing.
He saw how crazy I was and gave me his name card.
He told me to call him.
He said his friend was looking for a dancer,
and I should audition for it.
Since then, I went around all the agencies...
and became a singer.
So if you really want to do something and you have a dream,
you can go crazy, even if you lack talent.
If you go to great lengths to make it happen,
- it can happen. - Right.
But you don't seem crazy about it at all. Not even a bit.
- Right. - Right.
Actually, it doesn't affect us at all.
You can waste another year.
We honestly don't care how you spend the next two years.
I hope you will use this as an opportunity...
to change your disposition.
Whether you make it or not, give it a try.
What's important is not whether or not you become a model.
It's your dream, so it would be really nice if you make it.
But when you don't make it, you shouldn't blame yourself...
and become even more pessimistic.
- Think about that first. - Never.
What do you want...
to tell your sister?
Having a dream is good,
but I hope you will understand what Mother is going through for us.
I hope you will be a little kinder to her.
I cheer for your dream,
but you don't put any effort into it.
If you are really serious about it, I will trust you once more.
Sang Min, is this a worry or not?
- I think it's a worry. - Is it?
Yes.
I think it's a worry.
The hardest time in my life...
was when my self-esteem was low.
- Right. - That's the most important.
Loving myself is the most important thing.
I think it's not a worry.
- You think it's not. - I hope she will...
try hard with desperation and become a great model.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
(Please post your various concerns on our site.)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Stop. - That's it.
Before we end,
please say something to your brother.
If it doesn't work out, I will give up.
I will treat Mom well.
Let's treat Dad well too.
All right.
(We hope you will gain self-esteem too.)
Please reveal the result.
Promise us that you will give up if it doesn't work.
(The result)
Currently, the person who got 163 votes is leading.
("Promise Me You Will Give Up")
It's over 100.
He needs to get 172 to win.
(How many votes did he get?)
- 142. - 142.
(He got 142 votes.)
It's "Give Me a Break".
I'm 16-year-old middle school student with a busy life.
I'm about to explode because of all the rules at home.
It's my twin sister.
"Hey. It's annoying. Stop the hiccup."
"Hey. Don't sleep facing me."
"Face the wall."
"It's the bed. Stop overreacting."
(Punching)
"Hey. I dare you to try it again."
Even though I was born first, she hits me and yells at me.
- That's weird. - I can never tolerate it when...
"I like the blue sweater."
"No. Don't like blue."
- What? - "You must like purple."
- It's the colour violence. - "I love this song."
"No! Don't listen to this song."
"You must listen to other songs."
What's wrong with her? Stop my sister from being unreasonable.
(Please stop my sister.)
That's cute.
Do you have any siblings, Seong Woo?
- I have a sister. - How's your sister?
We have arguments sometimes.
Does your sister say her brother is hot?
She never said that before.
- But now she does? - Now that I'm in Wanna One,
she messages me often.
What does she say?
"Hey. A new photo of you is on the internet."
- "Why is this?" - "Hey. You're my brother."
(I'm proud of you.)
I have a sister. She's a year older than me.
When we were young, we used to fight a lot like Seong Woo and his sister,
but now, she takes pictures with me in the back...
when I'm eating before I realize it.
- Really? Really? - Yes.
- She wants to take pictures. - Right.
Even your sister thinks it's weird.
She wants to boast to her friends.
- That's what she does. - That's cute.
Do you have a sister, Jae Hwan?
- I'm the only child. - Are you jealous of them?
I was jealous of friends who have sisters since I was young.
I'll be your sister from now.
(Yeong Ja will be his sister for him.)
Call me sister.
Sister.
(That's adorable.)
Sister.
(It's cheesy.)
- That's cute. - He's kind.
He calls her sister even though she's older than his mom.
(Be quiet.)
Do that to the audience. Three of you together.
- 1, 2, 3. - Go.
- Sister. - Sister.
(Screaming)
(They melted their hearts.)
That's crazy.
Let's meet our guest. Please come out.
(I'm jealous.)
(They look reliable.)
(Who's worried about her sister who keeps telling her to stop?)
(Kim Min Seo)
Be careful.
- Are you twins? - Yes.
I was born a minute faster than her.
But she doesn't treat me like her sister.
There are so many things that she doesn't want me to do.
As soon as my hair touches her clothes,
she says, "I told you not to touch my clothes."
- My bed is next to her desk. - Okay.
If I want to lie on my bed, I always have to ask her first.
- If it's okay with her. - To go to your bed?
Yes. She even told me to stop breathing.
What?
- What? - She told you to stop breathing?
Yes. She told me to face the wall when I breathe.
Did you do something wrong to your sister?
- No. - Then why would she do that?
It became worse after we entered middle school.
It became worse. What did you mean by colour?
That was ridiculous.
Blue is her favourite colour, so she told me not to like it.
- Because it's her favourite? - Yes.
Then do you like blue secretly?
I don't want to like blue.
Then do you like purple?
I don't want to like it.
Then what colour do you like? Your glasses are purple.
Yes. I chose these because...
she likes them.
I like Mamamoo.
- Moon Byul is hot. - They sing well.
I asked her if it's okay to like her.
- Why? - Why would you ask her?
Then she said no.
She told me to like Whee In.
I was forced to say I like her.
She has designated celebrities.
Also, I have to...
ask her first about other things.
I have to ask her if it's okay to buy certain clothes.
Is she the Great Emperor or something?
Did she say anything about this?
She hated it so much,
so I brought extra clothes today.
But Mom told me to wear this.
So I wore this as Mom said.
You're older than her. You can always ignore her.
She kicks me. We also have a baseball bat.
She pokes me with it.
(She pokes her with a baseball bat.)
- You? With a bat? - Poke you?
(I have to worry about my sister.)
- Ask her questions, Wanna One. - Ask her.
When you went to elementary school...
Are you in Wanna One?
Were you in Wanna One?
(Oh, right.)
(Yeong Ja is upset.)
Don't be like this.
Maybe you both liked one boy.
- Is that the reason? - If he...
He tries to look for a reason in everything.
- Right. - Maybe he liked you.
Or your parents love you more.
There's nothing.
Does she do that to other people?
How about to other people?
(Sighing)
- You sigh so much. - Kind of.
- What? - She's friendly to other people.
Do you think you have different personalities?
No. Not really.
- Similar? - Yes.
Then how about your grades?
I get better grades.
(That's it! We found it!)
- That's it. - That's why.
- We found it. - That's why.
(She's jealous.)
- That's the reason. - It's the grades.
Anyway, let's meet her sister and see why.
Let's meet her sister. Hello.
Hello.
Up.
- She has short hair. - Right.
I used to have long hair.
People kept saying we look alike.
- That stressed you. - Yes.
Do you want to look different because you hate to hear that...
- you look the same? - Yes.
(I want to look different.)
Then why did you tell her...
to stop breathing and face the wall when she sleeps?
My closet is next to her bed.
She sighs, then it touches my clothes.
- Her breath. - Yes.
- You don't want her breath? - No.
Why do you stop her from passing your desk?
I don't like it. I don't like when someone touches my stuff.
Have you ever touched her stuff?
I always do.
You do, but why do you stop her?
She doesn't shower often.
She doesn't shower for a few days.
She scratches her hair and picks up my pen.
But I shower often compare to her.
So I tell her I'm using her stuff after I shower.
We have to talk about it for 20 minutes, but do we have to?
- Do we have to keep going? - Look.
Director.
We need to talk after this.
(Let's have a talk after this.)
You can just ignore her. Why do you obey her?
Then she'd punch me.
She already told you.
Also, she keeps telling me to apologize.
When I do apologize, she says I don't mean it,
and she's going to make me go down on my knees.
She threatens me.
Don't you think you've crossed the line by punching your sister?
It's a toy bat. It's soft.
Whatever it is.
I don't hit her. I only make the sound.
- Threat? - Yes.
She said you poked her. You poked her with the baseball bat.
Yes.
I poked her. I didn't hit her.
(Look at that attitude.)
What else does she stop you from doing?
She won't let me make friends.
- Does she designate whom? - Her friends...
- They shouldn't overlap? - No.
Let me ask this question.
Do you feel suffocated seeing your sister?
Yes.
- It's a lot of stress for her. - Yes.
It's a lot of stress for her. She's watching everything she does.
We need to judge whether it's love...
or abuse to change her future.
Right. Let's hear from their parents.
- Right. - Their parents are here,
but they keep laughing.
They find their story childish.
I went to buy a candle with Min Seo.
She kept hesitating in front of one candle.
I told her to buy it, but she said she can't...
because it's Min Joo's favourite scent.
She said if she buys it, Min Joo will be upset,
so I told her, "Let's say I wanted it."
And we bought it.
Min Joo ended up taking it, and she got upset.
I think it's a serious matter to Min Seo.
Sometimes I find it annoying.
When did this begin?
When they were young,
Min Seo always waited until her sister makes the choice,
so I complimented her a lot.
Then Min Joo got worse.
Min Seo got compliments, so she got used to it.
Min Joo said she hates looking the same.
Min Joo has baby fat.
Their friends always told Min Seo...
that this is what she'll look like when she gains weight.
- So for her... - She becomes the bad example.
In case of Min Seo, she used to work as an executive at school.
But Min Joo lost the election due to lack of votes.
I'm sure she was jealous and envious of her own sister.
- People kept comparing them. - That's why.
We asked her for some pictures from their childhood.
Let's take a look.
- Oh, that's adorable. - My goodness.
- Is that you on the right? - It's a good picture.
Next.
- That's adorable. - That's cute.
- That's cute. - They're holding hands.
(They used to be so close.)
(She's forced to do it.)
You have a happy family.
- They're wearing different clothes. - I know.
They wore matching clothes until then.
(What made them fall out?)
Their father laughed the most.
Not just her sister, but she acts like a clean freak to her daddy too.
- Clean? - Yes.
When I ask her to lend me one of her pens,
she checks if I washed my hands...
even before I go near her desk.
She always behaves like that.
When I come home after work,
my older daughter hugs me back when I hug her,
but my younger daughter checks if I washed my hands first.
(Please go wash your hands first.)
(That's unbelievable.)
She treats me as if I'm dirty.
When Min Joo comes home,
she asks me if I drooled on, put my booger on,
or stepped on her clothes.
She asks these questions to me 10 times.
It's because I was traumatized.
When she was a child, she picked her nose...
and put her booger on the comforter.
- Who did? - She did.
It's understandable as she was a kid.
Why do you watch everything your sister does?
That's unusual.
It's as if you set up a security camera.
However, you must know...
that despite the good things about your sister,
you've been trying to find her weaknesses...
that other people don't see.
Do you know that?
- No. - You don't know?
- You don't know? - She became this way unconsciously.
(Belittling her sister became her habit.)
Are you clean just like your parents told us?
I wash my hair...
once before I go out and once again after coming home.
Really?
How many times do you wash your hands?
My hands? I clean my pens.
With what?
- I use an alcohol swab. - She's very clean.
- Why do you do that? - Why is that necessary?
(Why is that necessary?)
I lend my pens to my friends sometimes,
and some of them bite them.
Do you also feel tired from being too clean?
- Pardon me? - Does it ever tire you?
Yes, I can't fall asleep if I don't clean them.
It's a serious problem.
They say that children are mirrors of their parents.
I used to be like her.
Min Joo surprised me...
by making her bed so neatly when she was in kindergarten.
- My goodness. - As soon as she woke up,
- she made her bed. - When she was in kindergarten?
- Yes. She organized her dolls too. - You didn't teach her how to do it?
No, I didn't. After I saw that,
I tried to help her feel okay with being dirty,
- Being dirty? - but it doesn't seem...
that she has changed yet.
- Their friend is also here. - Good.
Let's hear from their friend.
It's almost impossible to be friends with them.
I was in the same class with Min Seo in first grade...
and was in the same class with Min Joo in second grade.
(It's a relief that the three of them are good friends.)
- I'm relieved. - Have you been friends since then?
Since we go to the same church, we see each other often.
Do all three of you go to church together?
- Yes. - That's a relief.
Min Joo could've said, "You should be a Buddhist since I go to church."
That's possible.
Which one do you think is more stressed?
- Min Seo is. - Why?
Recently, I went to cinema with the twins.
There were movies posters there,
and Min Seo wanted to take one of them.
Min Joo said, "Don't take it. I'll take it."
She didn't let Min Seo have it.
I feel bad for Min Seo because she never confronts Min Joo.
Has she ever been mean to you like she is to her sister?
- Did she act like a clean freak... - No, she's never been mean to me.
Is she always nice to her friends?
Yes.
Why is she mean only to her sister?
However,
why did you stop her from taking the poster?
I behave differently depending on my condition.
You behave differently?
(This is why I'm frustrated.)
With all due respect,
before the situation got this serious,
you should have taught them...
what they should not do in any situation...
as their parents.
When Min Seo bought a scented candle,
she was worried if Min Joo would take it away from her,
and ma'am, you told her to say that you bought it.
I didn't understand your behaviour.
Since they started middle school, I thought they became more mature,
so I let them sort things out by themselves.
However, I was surprised...
because I didn't realize how serious the situation was...
and how stressed Min Seo was.
It can never be entirely one side's fault...
when there's a problem in any relationship.
But still, don't you think...
you're more selfish than Min Seo is?
I don't think I'm selfish,
but I feel apologetic toward her from time to time.
(Really? When?)
- You do? - When do you feel that way?
- Tell us. - When I hit her.
- When you hit her? - You said you never hit her.
I didn't hit her with a baseball bat, but hit her with my hands.
(She looks just like an immature middle school student.)
I also kick her.
Have you ever been very upset because of Min Seo?
One day, Min Seo looked very upset.
I said she can play with me because I want to make her feel better.
But she pushed me away,
and I broke my teeth.
I bled so much that I was taken to the emergency room.
How old were you two?
We were in first grade.
However, it was so painful.
Therefore, I expected her...
to understand my behaviours like that.
Did you know that she was still thinking about what happened?
- No, I didn't. - You didn't know?
I thought she hated me,
- so I asked her. - "Do you hate me?"
She said, "I hate everything about you."
(I hate everything about you.)
(Worried)
I hate her the most when she copies me.
When I wear jeans,
she puts on jeans too...
while putting on black pants.
If I wear white shoes,
she wears white shoes while putting on black shoes.
Do you feel like she does that just to get on your nerves?
- Is that the case? - Right?
Or I think it could be that...
she might feel like Min Seo tries to take away from her...
the things she likes.
- Isn't that the case? - Or...
their faces look the same, and they lived as twins until now.
Wearing the same clothes must draw attention, and she hates it.
- Why do you hate it? - Among the three reasons,
for which reason do you hate it?
For all three of them.
Do you feel a little bit of...
- all three of them? - Yes.
When we wear the same clothes,
people ask us if we're twins,
and they don't stop asking questions.
They ask if we have the same preferences and...
- It must be annoying. - Yes.
Min Joo, have you ever felt proud of your sister...
at school or somewhere else?
(Pondering)
- Be honest with us. - When you were a child,
you two played together...
while other kids were playing alone.
But I hated it.
(Shocked)
- You hated it? - Did you hate playing with her?
(Disappointed)
Whenever we do a group activity, I always team up with her.
I brought my friend, but it didn't work.
Do you think this way, by any chance?
"I wish I were the only one who is loved."
"It'd be nice if Min Seo didn't exist, and I were an only child."
- Yes, I do. - Do you?
- Yes. - What about you, Min Seo?
Do you wish you were alone without your sister?
- Do you feel the same way? - No, I don't.
You don't feel that way?
- Twins and sisters are... - They're different.
- completely different. - Indeed.
- That's right. - Being a twin stresses you out,
and you're taking it out on your sister.
It's not right.
You can still recommend...
- what clothes suit her better. - Right.
She wants to say something. Go ahead.
She can't make her own decisions.
So she buys the same things I buy.
I chose two different outfits.
"I'll wear this. Will you wear that one?"
She says no.
Next day, I see her wearing the clothes I bought,
and she goes out in that without asking me.
Your sister didn't get a chance to develop...
decision making skills. She needs to work on that.
It seems to me that she always asks for your opinions.
I bet it has been going on like that for years.
It's hard for Min Seo to make her own decisions now.
If this problem is resolved,
what do you want to do the most?
I wish I could like whatever I like...
- without asking for her permission. - Of course.
I wish I could wear dark blue clothes.
Min Joo, this is a serious problem.
It's not because she can't go against your wishes...
or she wants to do everything as you tell her.
She only gave up to avoid having fights with you.
It's okay if it happens only once, but if it's repeated for a while,
she would feel like she's being controlled.
We can only hear what you feel.
When I asked her if her chest has ever felt heavy,
she said she has that symptom. That means that she feels...
the pain both emotionally and physically already.
To see how great the pain she's suffering is,
it would be nice if you take her to a psychiatrist.
Only then, Min Joo will realize...
that Min Seo is suffering pain as the doctor explains.
If their parents let them keep going like this,
Min Joo might not realize how wrong what she's doing is.
Say whatever you want to say to Min Joo for the last time.
Right. Tell her while looking her in the eye.
Call her name first.
Let me like what I like,
and let me live freely as I want.
- Do you think it's a worry? - Oh, right.
(It's time for the guests to vote.)
If you two could be a little more considerate of each other,
you can resolve the problem.
Whenever I see twins...
getting along well together,
- I find them fabulous. - Of course.
There are a lot of twins like that.
They look like a duo.
- A duo? - I hope you keep that in mind...
and get along well with each other.
- That's a good advice. - Min Hyun.
Since one of them is too distressed,
I think it's a worry.
I don't think it's a worry either, so I pushed the button.
- You shouldn't have pressed it. - You don't have to press it.
(He puts it down slowly.)
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- I'm sure of it. - Stop.
Do you have anything to say to Min Seo?
Call her "Sister"...
in front of everyone.
Sister.
(I don't believe this.)
Sister.
Please stop lying.
You never told me that you like blue.
You didn't even tell me.
Tell her what you felt apologetic toward her for.
There must be at least one thing.
I felt apologetic the most when I heard about the scented candle.
- Tell Min Seo. - Tell her.
I'm sorry.
- She asked you for something. - Like whatever you like.
(Frustrated)
It's hard for teens to express their feelings.
- Right. - We know you mustered up courage.
(We hope they'll see how each other really feels while growing up.)
I wonder how many votes she got.
Show us the result please.
(The result)
I don't think many of them pressed the button. Is it over 100?
- 40. - She got 40 votes.
You're not the winner. Take care.
As a result, "My Man's Cave" is...
the winner of this week.
Congratulations.
The winner will receive a cash prize.
What did you think of the show?
I had things to say...
when I watched it on TV.
I'm glad I had a chance to say it here.
I hope everyone becomes happy.
Okay.
Until the day we are all worry-free.
Hello will continue to counsel you.
- Thank you! - Thank you!
("Candyland" by UP10TION)